People will still probably remember (and recently a few of them reminded me they do) the good old days of heated debates on this blog. Yeah, that was quite something, wasn’t it? I was pretty opinionated back then, and yes, I still am today. But there is a difference. Towards the end of those days of crazy debates, I realized I wasted a lot of time and energy debating topics that just went round and round. I fully engaged people who were out simply to be contradictory, and it just exhausted me.
My mistake was perhaps my own pride and ego that kept me defending my opinion. And this led to debates that never really ended. I’ve since learned to allow people to have the last say.
Nowadays whenever I offer up an opinion on my blog, I really just leave it at that. I believe my opinions are represented well by the original post and that no further explanation is really necessary. If people don’t agree with it, then that’s fine. I will no longer debate the finer points of it. If I have been misunderstood and people reacted accordingly, then it’s not really my problem anymore. I’ve since learned not to care if people think I was wrong. Used to be I cared a lot, that’s why I kept defending myself. Right now, well, go ahead and believe what you want.
I’ve also since learned to ignore people who are just out to keep putting me down. People who offer nothing but negatives and pessimism.
I have to differentiate “critique” with opinions that are simply unproductive, destructive, and just simply unhelpful. I am open to the critique, but as for the rest I now have zero tolerance for. If I give any attention to that, I just waste time, effort, emotions, and I run the risk of raising my blood pressure, which isn’t good.
So yeah, I guess those good old days are never coming back. I just have no time for it anymore, and I just have no energy for it anymore.